How to be Kind to Yourself – Five Top Tips to take care of you

How to be Kind to Yourself - Five Top Tips to take care of youWe are all so busy these days, running here and there, worrying about our children or our partners, our parents or employers.  There is so much pressure to be something to so many people and it is often far too easy to forget about ourselves in the midst of all that chaos.

The sad fact is that when you ask someone who they love most in the world, they will rarely mention themselves in the top 20 of who they list.

We can trudge along like this for weeks, maybe even months.  But eventually there will come a moment when you truly feel in your heart that you need to look after you – even just for a moment.

To put you first.  Be kind to yourself.

And there is no shame in it.  In my opinion, we should always take care of ourselves in order to ensure that we are the strongest we can possibly be to look after those around us that we care about.

So how can you do it.  How can you be kind to yourself? Continue reading “How to be Kind to Yourself – Five Top Tips to take care of you”

The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle – A Life Changing Book

the power of now eckhart tolleHave you ever heard of The Power of Now?

I am not a huge fan of self-help books.  Those I have read over the years have left me feeling underwhelmed and without any lasting sense of change or improvement that I can recall.  I no longer seek them out and never recommend them to my clients.

But one Sunday morning in January, I was lying in bed, listening to the radio.  The DJ and her guest casually mentioned a book that they had both read and that had changed their lives.  I was about to go away to a cottage without any internet or phone signal for seven days.  And so I popped online and ordered the book, simply for something to do while I was away.

The book in question is The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle.  It arrived the next day, I packed it away and gave it no further thought until I arrived at my cottage the following weekend.

In the interests of full disclosure I will now admit the following: Continue reading “The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle – A Life Changing Book”

Negative Self Talk – Practical Steps to Silence Your Inner Critic

beating negative self talkFollowing on from my last post about Negative Self Talk and how to recognise it, I have been asked to take things one step further and write about how you can work on silencing the self talk and reclaim your self confidence again.

It seems that this is an issue that faces many of us.  And it is limiting and in some cases demoralising.  Support to overcome it is available – one of the things that LifeRedesign specialises in is rebuilding self esteem.  But there are steps you can take immediately that will help to alleviate the issue.

A common mistake that many people make is forced positive thinking.  This creates a sense of unachievable pressure, and leads to an immediate sense of failure.  Many well-meaning friends and family may suggest this as an action to help, but in reality, the only way to beat the negative voice within is to face it head on and challenge it.

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Negative Self Talk – The critical voice within and how to silence it

negative self talkSelf Talk.  We all have it.  That persistent inner voice that narrates our existence and tells us what to think and what to feel.   It can be a useful guide and motivator.  It can help us navigate a difficult path or reinforce the joy of a positive experience.  Like having your own personal cheerleader.  But what happens when that inner voice decides to turn against you?  What happens if your cheerleader decides to change team?  It’s time to learn about Negative Self Talk. Continue reading “Negative Self Talk – The critical voice within and how to silence it”

A journey beyond Chronic Pain – Using my experience to empower Others

chronic pain survivorPart one of my chronic pain journey was shared in the previous post.  If you have arrived on this one without having seen the first, it might be a good idea to take a look.

We left things at the point where I had decided to stop taking my medication.  I wanted to find out how much of what I was experiencing was down to me and how much was the effects of the medication.

The doctor agreed that this was a good idea as long as I was open to the possibility that I would have to go back on the meds if things got worse.  I wasn’t open to that but decided he didn’t need to know that until we crossed that bridge so to speak.

A managed reduction was started in December 2016 and took my very last pill on 24th February 2017.  There was no increase in pain or other symptoms.   A couple of bumpy and emotional weeks later, I was definitely feeling more like my old self.

That was the point at which I decided to look in the mirror and assess what I saw.  It wasn’t pretty…. Continue reading “A journey beyond Chronic Pain – Using my experience to empower Others”

Starting a Diet? Consider your mindset and boost your success!

Starting a Diet? Consider your mindset and boost your success!There are very few of us who haven’t tried to lose weight or diet at some stage in our lives.  It is something that a huge number of us can claim to have in common.  But is is also a fact that some of us are better and more successful at it than others.

But why is this?  There are many different variables that we can consider.  The choice of diet, the length of the diet or the starting weight (the theory that the more you have to lose, the easier it is to lose at first).  Perhaps it’s the amount of exercise that is done with the diet.  There is a big list.

These are all very valid reasons why one person may be more successful in their diet mission than another person.

But there is one reason that very few people acknowledge even though it is without doubt the biggest single influence on the success or failure of plan to lose weight.  Mindset  Continue reading “Starting a Diet? Consider your mindset and boost your success!”