Many of my clients suffer with indecision. Often it has taken them months to decide that seeking the help of a coach is the right thing to do. That’s before they settle on choosing to work with me and not one of the many others they have found.
Being unable to make a decision can literally bring a persons life to a standstill.
I am sure many of us can recall a time when we have struggled to make a decision, especially around the bigger aspects of life. But imagine if you were unable to make even the smallest decision without being overrun with doubt and anxiety. What would your life look like then?
When Indecision Strikes
Indecisiveness can occur at any stage of life – many people cannot recall having ever been decisive at all. But the likelihood is that the indecision has spiralled from a specific point and grown into a problem over a period of time.
So what prevents us from making decisions? The most common answer I hear from clients is fear. Fear of making the wrong decision. There is a pressure to make the perfect choice every time, but generally without any clear idea of what the perfect decision should look like.
But rarely is there a perfect decision to be made? Any one decision simply leads to more choices further down the track. We find ourselves frightened to make the first decision and then the inertia makes us fearful of every decision that we face. We become used to saying no, or staying still. Delaying or denying the possibilities that life has to offer.
It is crippling and disruptive but also bafflingly inconsistent!
People who seek help for indecision are very often sharp decision makers in specific circumstances. Many report an ability to be very decisive in their professional lives, some claim that they can be super-decisive when it comes to their children. But when taken out of those specific circumstances, their decision-making superpowers vanish. They are left confused and afraid by the smallest of choices.
How to Beat Indecision
If you are someone who suffers with indecision and are looking for some ways to improve your ability to make choices and feel confident in doing so, here are some tips for you:
- Look at the decision through the eyes of someone that you respect and admire. How would they make the decision?
- Consider what the worst outcome could be if you make the wrong decision. Is it really so bad?
- Consider what a great decision would look like?
- Think about what resources are available to help you make the best decision you can.
- Lastly, listen to your gut. What is it telling you to do.
Now I’m not saying that these five points are going to transform you from an indecisive person to a sharp decision-shooting machine. But with practice, these five points will help you to rationalise the decisions you face.
The Decision Muscle
At the end of the day, there are very few decisions that we make in a day, a week or even a month that are life changing. If it is possible for you to become used to being decisive around the smaller stuff, the more comfortable stuff, there is hope. You see, the ability to make a decision is like a muscle. If you don’t use it, it becomes weak and useless. But the more you do use it, the stronger and more robust it becomes.
The more decisions you make, the more decisions you will be comfortable to make. Use that muscle. Make yourself a strong decision maker. Live your life to the fullest extent. You deserve that.
If you would like to receive support to improve your ability to make decisions or with any other issues covered in this post or the rest of the site, please consider booking in for a 30 minute Skype or phone chat to see whether coaching could work for you. It is free and there is no obligation to purchase any services, nor will we spam your inbox, call you up or contact you again in any way if you decide its not for you…thats a promise.