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We Knew the Game Was Ours – How England’s Mindset Won the Game

We Knew the Game Was Ours - How England's Mindset Won the Game

Last night I was sat – along with most of the English population – watching the World Cup game between England and Columbia. It was an ugly game with some very nasty tactics from Columbia and a gargantuan effort not to rise to the provocation by the England team. We weren’t without fault but overall I thought we handled it okay.

But what struck me about the whole situation was how calm the England Manager, Gareth Southgate looked throughout. He was completed focussed and in the moment.

After the nail-biting penalties and (long overdue) victory for England, the players were interviewed and each had the same thing to say. We knew the game was ours. We knew we had to just stay in the moment. We knew we had to own it.

The thing is – England have had a very patchy few years when it comes to football. Disappointment seems to follow them around like an annoying smell. To have overcome all of the pressure that this collective disappointment creates is nothing short of a miracle.

So how does this have any relevance to an Empowerment Coach who doesn’t much care for football? Continue reading “We Knew the Game Was Ours – How England’s Mindset Won the Game”

Top Ten Tips for Managing Stress

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Life in 2018 is frantic – so much stress!  We are all in a hurry to get somewhere, do something, be someone.  But at what cost?  How do we go about managing stress in today’s busy world?

Feeling under pressure is often a permanent state for many women.  From the business woman with the fabulous career to the stay at home Mum who has devoted her present to looking after her children.  None of us is safe from feeling stress.

But the great news is that there are things you can do that will increase your ability to cope.  Practical solutions that help you re-focus, manage your stress and help you regain control of your life, health and wellbeing.

Here are ten things you can do to kick your stress to the kerb and move on. Continue reading “Top Ten Tips for Managing Stress”

Nature – So much to teach us if we just pay attention

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Do you ever pay attention to nature?

So many of us walk with our heads down, focussed on the pavement or our phone.  The focus of almost every moment is getting to the next moment – to the next meeting, the next appointment, collecting the kids, dropping the kids off….its a never ending merry-go-round of deadlines, targets and pressure!  We move blindly through our lives because it is all we know.

But what if there were a simple change you could make today?  A change that would add a new and incredible dimension to your life?  One that would cost you nothing and bring a sense of wonder and renewed focus into your life….interested?

Good!  Because it’s important to look up and around and pay attention to more than just the next step you are required to take.

So what am I talking about here?  What is this quick fix? Continue reading “Nature – So much to teach us if we just pay attention”

Goals – Seize the Moment! Stop Thinking about it! Do Something Today!

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Are you ready to seize the moment and make progress towards your goals?

Every spring I feel a sense of renewal – an overwhelming desire to refresh everything in my life.  The birds seems noisier, the plants are all waking up and the days seem brighter.  But Spring only happens once a year.  So how do we keep that sense of determination going all through the year?

And what if you have a thing that you have always wanted but just never got around to it?  Something that you can’t shake off.  A goal or dream that just won’t go away or a nagging question that you need to have the answer to?

Lets spend a few moments tackling the need to seize the moment. Continue reading “Goals – Seize the Moment! Stop Thinking about it! Do Something Today!”

Step Outside of Your Comfort Zone

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Imagine spending thousands of pounds to build a beautiful home, that is everything your dreamed it could be….and then not living in it.  Crazy right? Now imagine the investment of time, effort and achievement that has gone into making you the person that you are today.  Are you maximising that?  Are you relaxing in your dream home?  Or are you dwelling in the safety of your comfort zone?

It’s an interesting question, and somewhat ironically, it’s one which I was required to pose to myself, when writing this (and every) article.  Writing is not my trade.  It is not something that I would list as one of my key strengths.  Putting pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard) always feels like a pretty big risk.  Would I be good enough, could I write something worth reading?

The Comfort Zone is defined as a behavioural space where your activities and behaviours minimise stress and risk.  This is something that we should all recognise as being pertinent to at least one area of our life.  And this is because the creation of a comfort zone is a necessary choice for much of our daily lives.

But is it healthy in all aspects of life?   Continue reading “Step Outside of Your Comfort Zone”

Royal Baby Backlash – Has Kate Middleton let the side down?

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Who would want to be Kate Middleton today?

In the last few days, the country has been buzzing with news about the royal baby.  He arrived on Monday and faced a barrage of photographers and reporters at the tender age of less than 6 hours!

William and Kate walked out of the hospital, baby wrapped in a blanket to protect him from the breeze.  As expected Kate looked immaculate.  The reporters shouted questions, cameras flashed and everyone there got what they came for.

The following day, every newspaper carried images of the three of them, and congratulations came flooding in from across the globe.  

But then…as the dust settled…things start to turn nasty.  Social media begins to criticise Kate for looking “too good”, for setting an unrealistic benchmark for other women who have just given birth.  It gathers pace and the media begin to report it, the daytime TV picks it up and presenters share their own post-birth pictures to reinforce the point.

And all of this forces me to ask the question – why the backlash? Continue reading “Royal Baby Backlash – Has Kate Middleton let the side down?”

How to be Kind to Yourself – Five Top Tips to take care of you

How to be Kind to Yourself - Five Top Tips to take care of youWe are all so busy these days, running here and there, worrying about our children or our partners, our parents or employers.  There is so much pressure to be something to so many people and it is often far too easy to forget about ourselves in the midst of all that chaos.

The sad fact is that when you ask someone who they love most in the world, they will rarely mention themselves in the top 20 of who they list.

We can trudge along like this for weeks, maybe even months.  But eventually there will come a moment when you truly feel in your heart that you need to look after you – even just for a moment.

To put you first.  Be kind to yourself.

And there is no shame in it.  In my opinion, we should always take care of ourselves in order to ensure that we are the strongest we can possibly be to look after those around us that we care about.

So how can you do it.  How can you be kind to yourself? Continue reading “How to be Kind to Yourself – Five Top Tips to take care of you”

The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle – A Life Changing Book

the power of now eckhart tolleHave you ever heard of The Power of Now?

I am not a huge fan of self-help books.  Those I have read over the years have left me feeling underwhelmed and without any lasting sense of change or improvement that I can recall.  I no longer seek them out and never recommend them to my clients.

But one Sunday morning in January, I was lying in bed, listening to the radio.  The DJ and her guest casually mentioned a book that they had both read and that had changed their lives.  I was about to go away to a cottage without any internet or phone signal for seven days.  And so I popped online and ordered the book, simply for something to do while I was away.

The book in question is The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle.  It arrived the next day, I packed it away and gave it no further thought until I arrived at my cottage the following weekend.

In the interests of full disclosure I will now admit the following: Continue reading “The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle – A Life Changing Book”

Negative Self Talk – Practical Steps to Silence Your Inner Critic

beating negative self talkFollowing on from my last post about Negative Self Talk and how to recognise it, I have been asked to take things one step further and write about how you can work on silencing the self talk and reclaim your self confidence again.

It seems that this is an issue that faces many of us.  And it is limiting and in some cases demoralising.  Support to overcome it is available – one of the things that LifeRedesign specialises in is rebuilding self esteem.  But there are steps you can take immediately that will help to alleviate the issue.

A common mistake that many people make is forced positive thinking.  This creates a sense of unachievable pressure, and leads to an immediate sense of failure.  Many well-meaning friends and family may suggest this as an action to help, but in reality, the only way to beat the negative voice within is to face it head on and challenge it.

Continue reading “Negative Self Talk – Practical Steps to Silence Your Inner Critic”

Negative Self Talk – The critical voice within and how to silence it

negative self talkSelf Talk.  We all have it.  That persistent inner voice that narrates our existence and tells us what to think and what to feel.   It can be a useful guide and motivator.  It can help us navigate a difficult path or reinforce the joy of a positive experience.  Like having your own personal cheerleader.  But what happens when that inner voice decides to turn against you?  What happens if your cheerleader decides to change team?  It’s time to learn about Negative Self Talk. Continue reading “Negative Self Talk – The critical voice within and how to silence it”